Shame: are you holding on?

Posted on July 5, 2020July 5, 2020 by Laura Southam

Shame is a really interesting emotion. It allows us to self regulate our behaviour and fit into society by upholding pre-agreed standards. It comes from our need to be accepted by the tribe in order to survive. Is shame good or bad? Firstly, uncomfortable feelings can be useful – we wont enjoy the consequences of[…]

Example of an affirmation 'Do you know how fabulous you are' with a smiling woman

Do affirmations help?

Posted on December 8, 2019December 8, 2019 by Laura Southam

Do you struggle to accept compliments, no matter how factual they are? Do kind words and encouragement leave you feeling a bit cold? If so you’re not alone. Many of the clients I work with feel the same, especially those who come to me with low self esteem. Traditionally you might have been advised to[…]